***I started this article a few weeks ago, right after the
\nelections. Now that Thanksgiving is upon us here in the
\nUSA, and you may be getting together with family
\nmembers–with whom you may not always have the
\nsmoothest relationships–you might consider it in that light.<\/p>\n
THOSE PEOPLE WHO ARE WRONG<\/p>\n
Have you found yourself at one time or another feeling
\nirritated or critical of others whose ideas are
\ndifferent from yours?<\/p>\n
You know who I mean: your partner or spouse, your
\nparents, children, siblings, inlaws, extended family
\nmembers, neighbor, government leader, politician,
\ncorporation, members of groups whose ideas feel
\nthreatening to what you love…<\/p>\n
Would your life be easier if everyone around you had
\n“appropriate” or “correct”–or just the same as your:<\/p>\n
– standards of tidiness and beauty for their yards,
\n homes, cars…
\n – standards for quiet
\n – standards for how they should treat others
\n – behavior relative to you, your family, your
\n choices, and your possessions
\n – beliefs about food, health, religion, politics,
\n the military, the environment, immigration, the
\n economy, ambition, what’s important in life…<\/p>\n
Wouldn’t it be great if they knew just what you wanted,
\nand cooperated in every way necessary for you to have
\nit all, without your even having to ask for it? \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
Who’s to say what’s appropriate or correct anyway? YOU,
\nof course!<\/p>\n
Yup, by “appropriate” and “correct,” I mean what agrees
\nwith your own ideas. Much as we’d like there to be
\nabsolutes of right and wrong, good and bad, the truth
\nis that whatever the source of your moral code, there
\nwill be others who disagree with you and don’t want to,
\ndon’t choose to, and even don’t think it’s right to
\nlive by the same rules, laws, standards, or beliefs
\nthat are important to you.<\/p>\n
Despite my intellectual understanding of the idea that
\neach person, and only that person, can only determine
\nwhat is right for him or herself, I find myself judging
\nothers who don’t agree with what I think is right more
\noften than I’d like to admit. I want them to agree with
\nme–because of course, I’m “right!”<\/p>\n
I do believe that we all have our own individual
\nguidance, which is why it’s not appropriate or useful
\nfor me to judge anyone else. Plus, I’ve noticed that
\nit’s stressful, and is therefore bad for my health to
\ncling to my righteous stance in the face of those with
\nother beliefs, standards, or behavior.<\/p>\n
So, I get to choose: what would I prefer, being
\n“right,” or being happy and healthy?<\/p>\n
What do you prefer?<\/p>\n
Any time someone “pushes your buttons,” they have
\nstumbled into an idea of yours that is more important
\nto you than your happiness and peace of mind.<\/p>\n
You get to choose how you want to be.<\/p>\n
That is, of course, if you agree with my premises. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
I’d be interested in your thoughts about this,
\nincluding how much agreement you think there needs to
\nbe in marriage, in families, in business relationships.
\nDo you think your partner\/spouse\/child\/employee\/boss
\n“represents” you–and therefore needs to agree with
\nyou–because of your relationship to him or her?<\/p>\n
Meanwhile, if you do find yourself stressed about the differences
\nbetween your ideas and those of others in your
\nlife–even if those others are people you’ve never met
\nin countries halfway around the world–here’s an
\nincredibly useful resource:<\/p>\n
Check out any of the hundreds of videos of Byron Katie
\nwith “The Work.”<\/p>\n
Here’s where you might start:<\/p>\n
http:\/\/www.bing.com\/videos\/search?q=The+Work+Byron+Katie&Form=VQFRVP<\/a><\/p>\n If you do a search, you’ll find loads of her videos to I also recommend all of her books.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" ***I started this article a few weeks ago, right after the elections. Now that Thanksgiving is upon us here in the USA, and you may be getting together with family members–with whom you may not always have the smoothest relationships–you might consider it in that light. THOSE PEOPLE WHO ARE WRONG Have you found yourself… Continue reading Those People Who Are Wrong<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[3,12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1031","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-health-healing","category-love-and-relationships","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/happyhealthsystem.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1031","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/happyhealthsystem.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/happyhealthsystem.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/happyhealthsystem.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/happyhealthsystem.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1031"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"http:\/\/happyhealthsystem.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1031\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1033,"href":"http:\/\/happyhealthsystem.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1031\/revisions\/1033"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/happyhealthsystem.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1031"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/happyhealthsystem.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1031"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/happyhealthsystem.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1031"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nwatch so you can learn how to do it yourself.<\/p>\n