Once upon a time, you felt scared, afraid that if you
\ndidn’t follow the crowd, or do what you thought was
\nneeded in order to please others, rather than standing
\nup for your own truth, you’d be ostracized.<\/p>\n
Chances are that at least once or twice, you sacrificed
\nyour own sense of right and wrong in order to fit in…or
\nkeep your job, or avoid conflict…<\/p>\n
When you did this, you lost a bit of your own sense of
\npride, integrity, trust in yourself, confidence. It
\nmade you feel some measure of anger and shame.<\/p>\n
And, when you did this, as others surely did also, the
\ngroup lost the richness of you as well as that of
\nothers.<\/p>\n
This increases tension in a group, and the tendency of
\nthose who have given up a bit of themselves to require
\nthat others also sacrifice their individuality and
\nfollow the “rules” of the group. If you had to make
\nsacrifices, others should do the same, right? If others
\ndon’t follow “right and wrong,” but bow to the values
\nof the group, then you shouldn’t either, right?<\/p>\n
The group becomes more rigid. The tendency toward
\nviolent enforcement increases. Each person feels more
\nanger and more shame. The fear of reprisal if one is
\nout of step increases.<\/p>\n
It becomes a cycle, an increasing spiral of obedience,
\nshame, and anger.<\/p>\n
This is what happens when we believe that other people
\nare the source of what we need: the source of food,
\nshelter, love, approval, money, power, companionship.
\nWe get lost in a no-win game of competition, anger,
\nshame, punishment, dependence.<\/p>\n
This is the ground of illness, injury, and
\ndeterioration.<\/p>\n
What is the alternative?<\/p>\n
Aren’t we social beings, after all?<\/p>\n
The only alternative of which I am aware is to open our
\nawareness to a much higher level of connectedness, and
\nto trust that when we draw our sense of joy, abundance,
\npower, and belonging from a non-physical source rather
\nthan from bending and twisting ourselves to please
\nother people, that source, through the law of
\nattraction, will match us to the perfect people and
\nresources to meet all our social and physical needs.<\/p>\n
Keep this in mind when you watch the video I’m
\nrecommending in the next post, “Cure for PTSD and
\nMore.”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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