Recently I was at a marketing seminar in which the
\npresenter said that the worst thing you can do is
\nassume people want to take responsibility for their own
\nproblems. \u201cPeople need an enemy,\u201d he said. \u201cThey need
\nsomeone or something to blame.\u201d<\/p>\n
Then, he advised, “you swoop in to the rescue with your
\nmagic solution that will take care of that evil.”<\/p>\n
You might be thinking that you\u2019re not like that. Maybe
\nnot. Or maybe, sometime in the recent past, you\u2019ve
\nfound yourself making a comment or thinking\u2026<\/p>\n
It\u2019s the government.
\nIt\u2019s those big multinational corporations.
\nIt\u2019s big pharma.
\nIt\u2019s your genes.
\nIt\u2019s pesticides.
\nIt\u2019s human nature.
\nIt\u2019s some hidden ingredient in your food.
\nIt\u2019s greed.
\nIt’s Mercury gone retrograde.
\nIt\u2019s your parents and the way they raised you.
\nIt’s your annoying neighbor.
\nIt\u2019s racism or sexism or homophobia or classism.
\nIt\u2019s that person who betrayed you or hurt you or stole
\nfrom you or raped you or gossiped about you.
\nIt\u2019s a conspiracy keeping vital information from you
\nIt\u2019s your body betraying you.
\nIt\u2019s your own mind that\u2019s to blame.<\/p>\n
Have you thought any of these, or similar things?<\/p>\n
Even more than this…<\/p>\n
Have you interpreted the idea that you create
\n your own reality as meaning that you\u2019re to
\n blame for your problems? That it\u2019s your own
\n fault it you\u2019re in the fix you\u2019re in?<\/p>\n
If you\u2019ve thought this way, you\u2019re certainly not alone!<\/p>\n
But what if you were to stand back and consider the
\npossibility that those \u201cproblems\u201d that seem to have
\ncaptured your attention, that you\u2019ve been working hard
\nto solve, that you are determined to overcome\u2026<\/p>\n
\u2026 What if they aren\u2019t problems at all?<\/p>\n
What???<\/p>\n
If you were to take the charge off of your \u201cproblems\u201d
\nby giving them no more attention than any particular
\nbreath you take today, by not pointing them out,
\nlabeling them, talking about them, but just allowed the
\ncircumstances of your life to just be what’s happening
\nin the present moment, what do you think would happen?<\/p>\n
I’m not suggesting that you ignore what’s going on in
\nyour life, or divert yourself from taking action. I am
\nsuggesting that you stop labeling what’s going on as
\nproblems.<\/p>\n
What if your job in life were not to solve problems?<\/p>\n
What if those things you previously thought of as
\nproblems just blended in with all the things that are
\neasy in your life and require no particular attention?<\/p>\n
Here\u2019s the thing. When you really believe you create
\nyour own reality, there\u2019s never anything to get upset
\nabout. That\u2019s because you can create something new any
\ntime you choose.<\/p>\n
There\u2019s no point regretting the past or worrying about
\nthe future when you believe you have the power, right
\nnow, to create anything you want\u2014-and you believe
\neveryone else also has that power.<\/p>\n
How freeing!<\/p>\n
Try this. When you catch yourself fretting over
\nsomething, ask yourself: Am I thinking this is a
\nproblem? <\/p>\n
What if I just think “this is what is right now.”
\n Then, what if I just ask myself, what do I want?<\/p>\n
It’s a funny thing. As soon as I define something as a
\nproblem, my mind automatically seems to kick into
\nproblem-mode. That means, all my attention goes to the
\nproblem.<\/p>\n
That’s how I was trained: What we do with problems is
\nworry about them, think about them, wonder what we’re
\ngoing to do about them, talk about them with our
\nfriends, get more people to put attention on them, find
\nsomeone or something to blame. <\/p>\n
When we think we have a solution, our own minds and
\neveryone else involved seem to jump into gear tearing
\napart the ideas for the solution, worrying that the
\nperson we’re thinking of hiring to fix it will do it
\nwrong, arguing about how the solution will never work,
\nworrying about how much it will cost and how long it
\nwill take, and most importantly, trying to be right.<\/p>\n
Of course, all this serves to make “the problem” much
\nbigger.<\/p>\n
But, if from the start you decide “this is what is
\nright now,” all that drama never builds. There are no
\nvictims, no perpetrators, no need for rescuers. At any
\npoint in a “problem” process, you can make this
\ndecision, and watch the drama evaporate.<\/p>\n
“This is what is right now” becomes a starting point
\nfrom which you can make a step in the direction of what
\nyou want.<\/p>\n
At the most basic level, it becomes a LOT easier to
\nconsciously apply the Law of Attraction. If I don’t
\nlike “what is,” then what should I do? Put more
\nattention on it, or put my attention on what I want
\ninstead?<\/p>\n
It also becomes a lot easier to apply EFT\/Tapping. If I
\ndon’t like “what is,” and I can’t seem to switch my
\nattention off of it, then I can use Tapping to help
\nmyself make the shift.<\/p>\n
What happens to the question of blame when you stop
\nthinking of things as problems?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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