It’s an interesting thing, the mind. <\/p>\n
When you’re in the unhappy mind, you believe that in
\norder to get to happy, problems must be solved,
\nconditions must be met, change must happen. <\/p>\n
Usually, unhappiness is because of the additional
\nbelief that the problems that must be solved aren’t
\neasily solved–if they’re possible to solve at all, the
\nconditions that must be met can’t be easily met–if
\nthey can be met at all, and change that must happen
\ncan’t easily happen, if it can happen at all.<\/p>\n
Because of the beliefs in difficulty or impossibility,
\none feels trapped in despair, which only makes the
\nproblems, conditions, and existing situations seem
\nworse and harder to bear.<\/p>\n
The step-by-step approach may seem hopeless because
\nthere’s usually such a big gap between the existing
\ncircumstances and the ones you believe must be present
\nin order for happiness to result. Making small steps
\nmay seem like they would never be enough to get you
\nthere.<\/p>\n
But, you usually believe that step-by-step is the only
\nway to get there because of your beliefs that things
\nDON’T easily change.<\/p>\n
If you believe in the Law of Attraction, you might have
\nthe additional burden of feeling that you’re to blame
\nfor your situation, and because of Law of Attraction,
\nyour unhappiness and negative thinking are making
\nthings much worse.<\/p>\n
The trap I see people in every day is the belief that
\nthey, themselves, must change in order for things to
\nget better. But because they’ve never before been
\nsuccessful at changing, and they believe deep down that
\n“people don’t change,” it feels all the more hopeless.<\/p>\n
What they don’t know is that the person they think they
\nare is only an identity they have adopted, and it’s the
\nidentity that’s not going to change. <\/p>\n
WHERE THE CHANGE NEEDS TO OCCUR IS AT THE LEVEL OF THE
\nONE WHO ADOPTS THE IDENTITY. The “needed” change is to
\nchoose a different identity.<\/p>\n
In other words, the scared, frustrated person with the
\nlimiting beliefs that she is not lovable or worthy is
\nnot going to change. No matter how loudly she cries to
\nbe rescued, she will never feel satisfied with the
\nlevel of love or assistance that is supplied to her.
\nThat is the nature of the identity.<\/p>\n
What is required is for her to recognize that the
\nscared, frustrated person with the limiting beliefs IS
\nNOT WHO SHE IS. It’s only an identity she has learned
\nto live as, just as if she were a character in a movie.<\/p>\n
WHO SHE REALLY IS is the one who chooses the adventure
\nof life in this body, at this time, with this or that
\nidentity. That one who chooses is the one who can
\ndecide that it’s time for a new adventure with
\ndifferent beliefs, a different identity, a different
\nbody experience. She can choose to let go of beliefs
\nthat no longer serve her.<\/p>\n
The one who chooses is a pure, unconditionally loving
\nessence that continuously expands–meaning, is changing
\nconstantly, but never “needs to be changed.”<\/p>\n
What this also means is that there is nothing wrong
\nanywhere. Nothing wrong with you, nothing wrong with
\nanyone else, nothing wrong with situations or
\ncircumstances. Because of your true eternal nature and
\nits ability to choose, everything else is temporary–in
\nother words, there really are no problems.<\/p>\n
When you feel yourself to be deeply entrenched in your
\nunhappiness, such that simply distracting yourself with
\nsomething funny or beautiful doesn’t work, recognizing
\nthis truth is what allows you to transition from
\nunhappy to happy.<\/p>\n
Then, you can experience the peace, joy, and confidence
\nof knowing you truly are free to have whatever
\nexperience you choose, and that it is inherently
\nimpossible to make a mistake.<\/p>\n
From this perspective, you can also choose a happy
\nidentity.<\/p>\n
If your whole lifetime up to now has been in an
\nidentity that’s uptight, unhappy, wounded, anxious,
\nstressed, sick, angry, bitter, or resentful, it may
\ntake some practice to get comfortable with a happy
\nidentity.<\/p>\n
Often, unhappy identities have lots of negative
\njudgement about happy identities. <\/p>\n
You’ve probably met unhappy people who think happy
\npeople are naive, flaky, shortsighted, ignorant,
\nungrounded, frivolous, simple-minded. That they ought
\nto take things more seriously, take off their
\nrose-colored glasses, get real, face the facts.<\/p>\n
That means unhappy people are often suspicious of not
\nonly others’ happiness, but their own happiness.<\/p>\n
Many unhappy people associate work–and anything
\nrequired to make money–with unhappiness, so that they
\nare afraid that if they are happy, they won’t be able
\nto work or be able to earn a living. Or, if they are
\nworking or making money, they unconsciously make
\nthemselves unhappy to match their own beliefs.<\/p>\n
Take a look at the videos in the “Shortcut to
\nHappiness” article, and notice your reaction. <\/p>\n
Does watching them make you happy?<\/p>\n
Do you admire the work of the people in the videos and
\nthe people singing the background song?<\/p>\n
Do you imagine that they were happy making the
\nrecording and the videos, and that they are happy in
\ntheir “real lives?”<\/p>\n
Do you think the dancers are being frivolous with their
\nlives, and not doing “real work?”<\/p>\n
Do you assume that people who dance or sing for a
\nliving have to choose between being rich and successful
\nor poor and happy?<\/p>\n
What is the identity that is having these opinions and
\nmaking these assumptions?<\/p>\n
If all this seems too much to think about, just follow
\nthis advice:<\/p>\n
If you want to be happy, find happy people that you
\nadmire, and notice what they talk about.<\/p>\n
What advice would you give to someone wanting to be
\nhappier? Your comments are welcome!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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