You could expose yourself to 20 wonderful teachers, who
all share their perspectives and successes with you
over ten days of tapping, at no charge.
Your pain could melt away.
You could experience miraculous healing.
You could find peace and resolution to problems that
have haunted you for years.
You could learn a skill that you’ll be able to use for
your own benefit for the rest of your life.
You could be one of the thousands writing a grateful
testimonial.
To help you get results like that, I want to share
three things I’ve learned that might make the
difference for you between frustration and success with
the upcoming “Tapping World Summit.”
(If you’ve missed the preview videos or don’t
know what this is all about, be sure to check
it all out here:
MY THREE TRICKS:
1. NOT BEING FORCED TO CHANGE
What I’ve found is that when I approach any technique
like this with the attitude that there’s something
wrong with me, and I need to change, I meet the part of
myself that stubbornly resists.
And I get no results except frustration.
This is where the setup statement, the part where I
accept myself just as I am, with all my imperfections
and problems and resistance and refusal to let go of
the attitudes and beliefs that don’t serve me, is so
important.
That neutral, you-don’t-have-to-change or prove
anything acceptance is the key to being able to let go
of those stubborn beliefs.
You probably know the beliefs I’m talking about.
“I’m not worthy or good enough.”
“I don’t have enough ______.”(fill in the blank.)
“I’m damaged or lacking beyond repair.”
“I can never be forgiven.”
“I can never forgive or let go.”
“No one values me.”
“I should be further along than I am.”
You’d let go of beliefs like those if you could,
wouldn’t you? … Or would you?
2. GETTING CURIOUS
The second thing I want to share with you is the value
of curiosity.
When I approach my most stubborn problems with the
feeling of desperately wanting to change them, or
despair about anything ever working for me, what helps
is getting curious.
“I wonder what I can learn about this that I never knew
before.”
This changes the focus from needing to change something
to just discovering something.
The same curiosity helps when I find myself resisting a
teacher or someone else.
Instead of getting into judging the other person, then
judging myself for judging the person, and getting
entrenched in my opinions, I take a step back and get
lovingly curious about this person who is so caught up
in judging and resisting.
3. STEPPING BACK
This brings us to the third thing I want to share: the
value of stepping back.
Whenever I find myself stuck in an uncomfortable
perspective, I find that what helps is to step back
from identifying with my opinions, and see the person
who feels stuck in her perspective.
YOU?
What have you found that makes your tapping most
successful?
And, if you’re not yet registered for this year’s
“Tapping World Summit,” hop on over to:
The no-cost Tapping World Summit starts Monday,
February 4. And for the next few days, you can get some
fabulous earlybird bonuses.
You’ll want those bonuses if for any reason you won’t
be able to participate in all the live sessions–two
per day–for the ten days of the summit, or if you want
to be able to read the scripts or replay the sessions
later.
See you at the Summit!
With love and appreciation,
Dr. Alexandra Gayek
P.S. I hope you’ll share your thoughts about the videos
with Louise Hay, Dr. Mark Hyman, Nick and Jessica
Ortner, and your own discoveries about what makes
tapping work for you.
I want to write a response just to tell you how close a couple of the things you mention are to my own issues.
> judging the other person, then
> judging myself for judging the person, and getting
> entrenched in my opinions
Oh, yeah. That’s been me since at least my teens. I’m a lot better than I was, but I still fall back into that entrenchment. It seems to be connected to fear of being wrong.
> when I approach any technique
> like this with the attitude that there’s something
> wrong with me, and I need to change, I meet the part of
> myself that stubbornly resists
Yup. No way are they going to force me to do anything (I mean if I feel someone is trying to force me — or, of course, if I feel they’re telling me there’s something wrong with me).
> “I’m not good enough.”
> …
> “I should be further along than I am.”
Yes, those two.
> You’d let go of beliefs like those if you could, wouldn’t you? … Or would you?
That’s not as obvious a question as you might think. I hold onto those beliefs pretty damn hard. Clearly it would be beneficial to let go of them, but I find I’m feeling some resistance to doing so.
Still, I could think about it like this. I presume you’re suggesting letting go of them via tapping? I could tap with an addition to the statements during tapping (or the setup statement) that points out that I can always pick the beliefs up again if I want to. I’m trying to think of a good way of wording it. Let’s see.
“Even though I believe I’m not good enough and I should be further along than I am, I love and accept myself anyway.” [Setup statement.]
“I’m not good enough. No, I’m not good enough. I’m sure that’s true. I’ve always believed that. What if I try believing something else? What if I try thinking that I’m always good enough just as I am? I’m good enough. I’m good enough. Nah, that feels wrong. It feels like [whatever comes up at that moment]. But I love and accept myself anyway. I’m good enough. What if I tried believing I’m good enough just for now? I’m good enough right now. I can always go back to the old belief, but right now I believe I’m good enough. I’m good enough.” Etc., working through the tapping points as many times as it takes.
What do you think?
That’s the sort of thing I might do ‘in the moment,’ not as a planned tapping session. I’ve sometimes used tapping when I was feeling something painful, and the actual things I say then are stream-of-consciousness, not really planned out beforehand at all. I plan the setup statement and have an idea of what to start with for the points, but then I’ve just gone with it — saying what feelings come up right then. And then — after I’ve worked through that — trying to think of tapping statements that are healthier ways of regarding the subject (whatever it is).
It can be pretty effective, though I don’t use it often enough to know whether the effects are permanent or just drain off the intensity of the feeling at the moment.
I have no idea whether my description of the process, a couple of paragraphs above, is understandable — it’s a bit hard to explain. Ignore it if it makes no sense. 🙂
Hi Mia,
Makes sense to me! What you wrote pretty well describes how I use tapping most of the time: I don’t usually plan my scripts, but use tapping to support that sort of stream-of-consciousness flow of discovery. Somehow it’s easier to get at things when I use the familiar physical process of tapping. What I find is when a limiting belief pops out, in relationship to something I’ve been struggling with, just exposing the belief seems to be enough to zap the power of both the belief and the experience of struggle (whether it’s a physical symptom or unpleasant emotion.)
So, for me, the value of the Tapping World Summit is exposure to new ideas and perspectives, different styles of tapping, working on things I might not have been brave enough to tackle on my own, and working on stuff, period. By that I mean, like many people, instead of doing a little tapping every day, I often put it off until I’m really suffering with something. So, joining all these hundreds of thousands of people gets me to DO it! And, I’ve always gotten lots of benefit from participating.
For those unfamiliar or unpracticed at tapping, I really recommend the Summit as a way to get familiar with tapping and get lots of practice under your belt.
With love and appreciation,
Alexandra