Is Being Health Conscious Healthy?

Lots of people proudly say they are very health conscious. They eat organic foods, take their vitamins, drink their green drinks, exercise regularly, avoid sugar and foods to which they are allergic… So why are so many of them sick?

I’m actually a big fan of doing all these things, plus laughing, meditating, spending time in nature, hanging out with people you enjoy.

But it’s not just about checking things off the list, and it’s not just WHAT you do that matters. It’s WHY you do it, and HOW, because your attitude and enjoyment, as Mr. Wattles says in The Science of Being Well, are at least as important as what you’re doing.

Consider how it would feel to be very fearful about the toxic environment in which you live, and how little control you have over your exposure, anxiously reading labels and choosing your food and drinks because the world feels so unsafe. Add anger over those who make money off of that toxicity, or your government’s role in having or enforcing rules to keep you safe.

Consider how it would feel to live a certain way in order to impress others, to prove something, to win favor, or to get to some goal–even the goal of health.

In all these cases, there’s a lot of stress involved, wouldn’t you say?

Now consider how it would feel to choose life, love, happiness, peace, and fun, and let yourself choose what to eat and drink, and how to move your body, where and with whom to hang out, because they feel good to you–and you feel good about yourself–before, during, and after the doing of them.

How would you live if instead of “health conscious,” you were “joy conscious,” or “love conscious?” What words would you choose for the ideal consciousness in which to live?

Slow Suicide: When Eating Is a Call for Help

Her kitchen garbage was composed mostly of empty ice cream cartons and chip bags. For someone who lived alone, worked and ate at home, this was telling.

Rather than scolding my friend for setting herself up for a heart attack, or shaming her for letting her blood sugar get out of control, I said, “looks like you’ve been having a rough time.” She nodded and started to cry.

“What can I do to help?” I asked.

Tears in her eyes, she whispered, “pray for me.”

We talked for a while, and I realized that she was asking me to see her the way Jesus would, to see past the weight of her fear, depression, destructive and addictive behavior, the burden she was sure she would be if she called her friends, and instead see only the purity and light of her true being.

When the person who is acting out lives with you, and the current behavior, depression, illness, and/or future illness or death is or would indeed be a terrible burden for you, it can be hard–maybe even impossible–to be that unconditionally loving friend. It can be such a temptation to try to force the person to change his or her behavior so you can feel safe.

Unfortunately, that is the worst, most counterproductive thing you can do, from the least helpful attitude, if the person is really to get better. There really does need to be a friend. You may need one too, if you’re living with someone in trouble.

Being the social beings we are, we do need one another–just not in the ways we usually think we do. We need to belong, to feel safe, loving and loved, to contribute and feel valued. It’s just that the way to get there is counter-intuitive. It’s only when we draw our sense of belonging, safety, love, contribution, and value from our own spiritual source, rather than trying to get it from other people, that we experience the fulfillment of our social desires among people. What we need from one another is the reminder of who we really are, and where to look for what we need.

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Registration Link for Tapping World Summit

The the first day of the 10 day 2017 Tapping World
Summit has begun! This free event has helped tens
of thousands of people find peace with grief,
anger, frustration, overwhelm, pain, guilt,
betrayal, illness, discouragement, financial
stress, loneliness, longing for change.

Are you getting the daily reminders of each day’s
sessions?

Have you watched the bonus videos?

If you’re missing out on the summit because you
registered but didn’t get the emails with links to
the sessions–or you’re not sure you registered,
click here:

-> TWS Registration Link

If you’re missing out because you haven’t yet
registered, it’s not too late! You have until 8pm
Eastern (US) time to hear and tap along with both
of the Day One sessions.

Each day for the next 10 days, there are new
audios that are available for 24 hours. There’s an
option to get all the audios, transcripts,
workbook, and lots of bonuses, so you can go
deeper and take your time with all the material.

You’ll find all the information for this on the
registration page. Here’s where to register to
join in the summit:

-> TWS Registration Link

I hope you’ll join in just to see what surprises
you can get by listening and tapping along.

With love and appreciation,
Alexandra
Dr. Alexandra Gayek

P.S. One tip I learned from previous Tapping World
Summits: I often wound up getting the most benefit
from sessions whose title sounded like something
that didn’t interest me or didn’t seem relevant to
me. Because of that, I decided to just tune in for
every session, regardless of the topic or title.
I’d recommend this approach!

If two sessions a day is too much for the time you
have this week, you can always get the recordings
and listen on your own schedule.

Here’s the registration link again:

-> TWS Registration Link

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3 Free Tapping Meditations

If you’re feeling stressed, overwhelmed, anxious,
or angry, here’s some quick relief–at no charge.

The only catch is, the videos are only available
for a couple more days.

You can feel surprisingly better in just a few
minutes with very little effort, just by following
along with any or all of these short tapping
meditations. They combine EFT Tapping and
meditation. You can see for yourself how powerful
they are!

The first meditation is to help you release stress
and overwhelm. Scroll down the page at the link
below, and you’ll also find two more meditations
to help address anxiety and anger.

Click here for 3 Free Tapping Meditations

Pick the one that is most helpful now, listen in,
tap along, and notice how quickly you can feel
better! Plus, you can download all the videos to
use whenever you need them.

Click here for 3 Free Tapping Meditations

With love and appreciation,
Alexandra
Dr. Alexandra Gayek

P.S. This year’s Tapping World Summit, which is
the 9th annual event and starts on February 27th,
takes you through 10 days of free, 100% content
presentations (2 per day) where you get to learn
from leading Tapping experts on a variety of
topics. Over 2 million people have attended this
event over the past 8 years–including yours
truly! I thoroughly recommend it!

Click here for 3 Free Tapping Meditations

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It’s That Time Again!

IF you’ve been with me for a few years, you know
that every year around this time I encourage you
to participate in the annual Tapping World Summit.
It’s time to sign up for the 9th annual summit!

Here’s the link to the first yummy video with Nick
Ortner:

https://rd117.isrefer.com/go/TWS-ENO-VS1/agayek

If you’ve missed the previous summits, or don’t
know what this is about, here’s why I promote this
event:

EFT Tapping is a quick process that works for me
to heal my own acute illnesses and pain, that I
share with most of my patients for handling their
stress, pain, and illness.

But of course it only works if you are willing to
try it, and if you know how!

The easiest way I know of is to expose yourself to
loads of different EFT/Tapping teachers who walk
and talk you through using the technique, starting
with Nick, teaching you how to shift that #1 thing
we all have in common, that drives all of our
health issues.

https://rd117.isrefer.com/go/TWS-ENO-VS1/agayek

And, because you’re my subscriber, I want to talk
with you about your experience. Does tapping work
for you? Do you feel resistance to doing it? Have
you used it and not gotten any results? Are you
wondering what it has to do with The Science of
Being Well? Let’s talk! Post your comment here.

(Please note that in order to control spam, I have
the system set to manually approve the first post
from each person. Once you’ve been approved, your
future posts will appear right away.)

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Shocked? Dismayed? Terrified? Read This!

Shocked? Dismayed? Terrified?

That was me, lying awake in the middle of the night,
where I do my least useful thinking. Finally, I got up
at 5:30am, cleaned the whole bathroom (my way of
feeling in control of something) and found a way to
feel better about the world. I wanted to share it with
you, in case you’re struggling.

To my friends who feel shocked, grief-stricken,
terrified by what happened in the US elections on
Tuesday–and since–and find themselves asking in
disbelief how this could have happened… or have now
spent hours reading blogs and watching videos and TV
pundits with all their explanations, here’s my
explanation and suggestion for how to recover and
thrive.

To me, the answer to “how could this have happened?” is
pretty simple. Whoever gets the most attention wins.
Negative attention or positive attention, it’s the
same. It’s a perfect illustration of the law of
attraction. Replay the last 18 months, and it’s pretty
obvious who got the most attention.

Sure, there are lots of other ways to look at it. Most
of them will lead you to want to blame, attack and
punish or to feel paralyzed with despair and
powerlessness. You could have it all figured out and
feel smart and right. You could exhaust yourself with
anger, sadness, or fear, and never actually do anything
that would change the things you care about. In the
process, you’d miss the whole point of being
unconditionally joyfully alive.

What’s the alternative?

Try this, even if just as an experiment to see what
happens:

1. Embrace this political situation as perfect. It’s a
perfect example of the immutable laws of the universe.
Given all the factors and dynamics, what happened was
the only possible outcome.

2. Turn off the news. Listen to music or something
inspiring instead.

3. Decide to apply your own actions in the same
unwavering way–to put the maximum attention of as many
people as possible on the outcome YOU want, constantly
practicing the wonderful way you’ll feel when you know
the outcome is inevitable. Remembering that the law of
attraction will bring more of what you’re practicing,
you won’t be directing your–or anyone’s–attention to
what you don’t want, right?

So, you won’t be practicing anger, fear, sadness,
frustration, blame, overwhelm, resentment, violence, or
powerlessness, or putting your attention on the things
that trigger these emotions–unless your goal is a
world filled with those things.

Instead, you’ll be practicing joy, love, empowerment,
delight as you put your unwavering attention on a
solution about which you feel passionate. You’ll be
selling the solution by infecting others with the
positive feelings they too will feel in joining your
cause.

Let’s say for example that the thing you care about is
the health of the food supply, and the thing that
really gets you going is GMO (genetically modified
organisms.) Having fun with creativity, maybe you
decide the solution is to be the new “Johnny
Appleseed,” distributing heritage seeds or little
plants to every school in your country and teaching
every child how to harvest those seeds and pass them
on. If this were your goal, wouldn’t it be fun to start
where you are and see your project grow and grow,
spreading empowerment, joy, and aliveness along with
great food and a sustainable supply of seeds?

There’s someone who’s excited about solutions to every
problem you care about. There are people who will want
to join you, and then will want to protect what you all
care about. If you can’t think of any solutions of your
own, your project could be to find, join, and shine the
spotlight on others who are passionately spreading
solutions to your favorite issue.

Being an activist who brings great change can be fun.
Go for it!

Of course, we’d all love to be inspired by learning
about your creative ideas, so please post them here!
Maybe someone will join you in spreading yours!

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Couch Potato to Athlete?

The most commonly disregarded piece of medical advice is to exercise. Its health benefits are enormous, wide reaching, and unquestionable.

So why, even when faced with warnings of dire health consequences if we don’t exercise, do most of us continue to avoid, resist, and procrastinate on getting our bodies moving?

In my experience, there are three basic camps into which we seem to fall. One is the denial camp. We see ourselves as people who exercise, but really aren’t doing it. If, when you look in the mirror you see a body that isn’t obese; if as you go through your day you aren’t stiff or in pain; if you think of yourself as a reasonably healthy, active person, and if you have no trouble doing the basic activities of your life, you may just assume that you’re doing enough to keep yourself fit and healthy–even if the last real exercise you did was to go for a hike two months ago. Denial is common in young, busy people, as well as in people who were once athletic but aren’t paying attention to the changes in their bodies. The basic belief is that the body is resilient and will easily bounce back when we’re not so busy doing something else. Then comes the shock of looking in the mirror one day and realizing that the “aging” that only happened to those “other” people suddenly applies to you.

Most of us, however, KNOW we “should” be exercising more. We just don’t. We’re in the resistance/procrastination/excuses camp. Somewhere in our identities, we just don’t see ourselves as people who exercise. Maybe we laugh with our friends about being couch potatoes. And we do find that most of our friends easily relate to feeling out of shape, tired, fat, and making any excuse not to exercise. It may be a result of childhood or adolescent experience of being the last one picked for the kickball team, being teased or bullied for one’s body type or level of coordination, skill, strength, and agility. Most women, especially as we age, think our bodies are unacceptable and feel shame and fear at the prospect of being seen in a swimsuit, a yoga outfit, running clothes or gym attire–much less being seen trying to do an activity we can barely do. The memory of being laughed at, or laughing at and judging other girls or women who dared to be exposed as being that fat or skinny, uncoordinated, awkward, clumsy, slow, is enough to keep most of us far away from any situation that would trigger those reactions. When I was a teen, even being tall and strong were the opposite of the desirable “cute and pretty” object of the boys’ adoration that made one popular. Unmentionable was the risk of being thought to be a lesbian–which went with the image of being athletic if one wasn’t a cheerleader or gymnast. What mattered more than anything was being popular.

There’s a HUGE amount of past negative conditioning around exercise that those of us now in our 60’s and 70’s–women at least–experienced when we were in our formative years. I believe it’s true for men as well, but in a different way. For men, it was more an issue of being shamed as adolescents for being skinny, weak, uncoordinated, short, fat, slow, instead of big, muscular, strong, and athletic. The only negative downside of being athletic was to be thought of as a “dumb jock”– but in my experience this was less of an issue in public high school than it was in college, when intelligence brought more social status. Certainly for men, financial success later in life gives one more social status than athleticism alone. Thus, the priority to work rather than exercise creates the result of not exercising when time seems limited and there are “more important” things to do.

The third no-exercise camp is the camp of obesity, illness, pain, and/or injury that creates physical limitations. Shame may play into the picture, but the largest factor is simply the difficulty of moving. The greatest hurdle is finding some way to get moving that doesn’t hurt or otherwise exacerbate one’s physical problems. This often involves learning new skills, getting special training, and/or using special equipment.

Because of my belief that the presence of pain and failure to heal from illness or injury always have psychological roots, and my experience seeing people quickly heal from seemingly intractable pain, to me the first step in relief is to explore these roots–before investing a lot of time and expense into physical exercise. If there’s a shortcut, why not take it?

For some of us, the pain, illness or other limitation may provide an unconscious way to get something else we’re not even aware we are trying to get–attention, validation, an excuse not to take risks we’re afraid to take, distraction from having to face our own lack of integrity.

Okay. All those theories are nice, and one or more of them may have you nodding in recognition. But what do you DO?

In my experience, self love and acceptance are every bit as important to the outcome of a healthy body as a daily exercise routine. Practicing loving, rather than rejecting yourself, despite your denial, excuses, resistance, procrastination, fear, pain, neediness, guilt, and shame, is an absolute requirement for sustaining any healthful change in behavior as well as for getting the most out of that change. It also has a direct, positive effect on the body, even without any external change in behavior. Therefore, this is the first step.

For some of us, taking action may go hand-in-hand with building self love and acceptance. It gives us something of which to be proud. Unfortunately, it’s a double-edged sword that can just as easily be used for self abuse when one is not taking that action, or used as a prod to drive one into overdoing it. It’s conditional love.

I find it healthier to believe that you are worthy of love, respect, and acceptance without having to earn it or prove anything. In other words, you are worthy just because you are. Everything contrary that you’ve learned along your life is just social and cultural conditioning that won’t serve you in living fully, joyfully, and healthily for years to come.

With that belief as a foundation, the next step is to begin to discover just how much you are already moving. Start with zero as the baseline, rather than measuring yourself against some ideal or long shot goal. Just allow yourself to be curious. You’re breathing, right? That means you have at least that much external/visible movement going on. Your heart is beating, and your blood is moving around, right? That means you have at least that much internal movement going on. Gold stars!

What else are you already doing every day? Getting out of bed? Walking or rolling your wheelchair to the bathroom? Sitting down? Standing up? Wiggling your leg when you’re sitting there in your chair? Lifting your arm to open the refrigerator or lift a fork to your mouth? Chances are there’s a LOT you are doing every day. This is the second step–just noticing, increasing your awareness of your movement. Research shows that just keeping track of moving causes people to move more. That’s one reason movement trackers like “Fitbits” are so popular and effective. We feel successful when we can see tangible evidence of what we’re doing, even if it’s just a digital count. Most of us know that it takes time to build muscles and gain strength, flexibility, and endurance, and most of us have given up when we don’t have any way to notice progress.

Next is choosing to move more. It’s best if you go for the smallest possible increment. One more step. One unnecessary lift of your arms over your head. One minute of stretching. The smaller the goal, the more likely you’ll reach and even want to exceed it.

Then comes adding another small increment. If it was one step yesterday, maybe it’s two today, and three tomorrow. Keep it feeling EASY, and keep it constant. Keep it in the realm of curiosity, where you get to discover with delight just how easy it is to do a little, and just a tiny bit more.

Any time you find yourself slipping into self abuse–whether criticizing yourself for not being or doing enough, or pushing yourself too hard, it’s time to return to step one.

These three steps are, in my experience, what it takes to rediscover the joy of moving. Once you have that, you can decide when you’re ready to engage in something more structured, like a class, a walking route, a gym membership, a swimming program, or whatever sounds like fun to you. If, in considering your options, you find yourself recoiling in horror at the thought, it’s time to go back to step one. Those early experiences of rejection of your body and its abilities may take a while to outdo with the power of your love.

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How we (don’t) stop smoking, drinking, sugar…

The other day, I received this email from subscriber Kim Thomas:

Growing up, my best friend’s older brother always took care of us.
Adam was two years older, a tennis star, and seemingly indestructible.
The cigarette tucked behind his ear was his trademark. We had no idea
it would end up being his downfall.

Last week, Adam was diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer. I can hardly
believe that the guy I’ve looked up to my entire life could die
because of something that had seemed so minor at the time.

To honor my “big brother,” I want to inspire smokers to find the
strength to quit. I put together a collection of resources in the
hopes of promoting the facts about smoking and ways to end the
dangerous habit. Would you be so kind as to share it with your
audience, maybe here:
http://scienceofbeingwell.net/bewell-june04.html

I hope those in need will arm themselves with this knowledge and begin
a healthy, new path.

Sincerely,
Kim

Unfortunately, the knowledge that things are “bad” for us is rarely enough to get most of us to stop doing those things. How do you feel when you think of not having those things you like to eat and drink and smoke that you “shouldn’t?”

Similarly, the knowledge that things are “good” for us is rarely enough to get many of us to do them. How easy is it for you to get yourself to daily stretch, exercise, eat your vegetables, drive the speed limit, love and forgive yourself and others, meditate, keep your attention on peace and abundance in the present moment, floss your teeth, and be in bed with lights out at 10pm?

Being in the business of giving advice, I’ve often seen that even a person who is paying for advice isn’t necessarily ready to follow it when it feels like deprivation or too much work. Even when the desire to change behavior comes from the patient, the person’s own desire to NOT change it can still win.

In some cases, information of danger–especially when it comes from someone giving us unwanted advice–only makes us feel angry and want to rebel and indulge more in the behavior in question. Or, we just wind up feeling guilty and bad about ourselves as we continue the behavior.

What I’ve found to be most useful is to truly listen and validate the part of us that fears and resists change, the part that’s ashamed, that believes she’s powerless, that wants to rebel, stay in denial, pretend her actions don’t matter. In most of us is a part that at least sometimes feels hopeless about ever getting what we really want, so we might as well live it up in the moment with no regard for the consequences of our actions.

For those of us in relationships with addicted partners, friends and family members, the key is to take responsibility for our own happiness, and no one else’s, which is often the opposite of what social pressure–and our own co-dependent tendencies–demand.

However, just in case you are feeling curious about how you might adjust your own behavior, you might find some of Kim’s resources helpful. I did, even though I’ve never been a smoker. I felt inspired and grateful to those who’ve been brave enough to change, and then tell their stories and reach out to help others.

Here are the links she sent:

Smoking Cessation: The Guide to Treating the Mental Side of Nicotine Addiction
https://www.comparethemarket.com.au/health-insurance/guides/smoking-cessation-guide/

101 Things to Do Besides Smoking
http://www.charlesglassmanmd.com/smoker-former-smoker-try-these-foods-to-clean-up-your-lungs/blog-53/

10 Foods & Drinks That Can Help You Quit Smoking
http://www.thedailymeal.com/eat/10-foods-and-drinks-can-help-you-quit-smoking

Exercise Away the Urge to Smoke
http://www.everydayhealth.com/smoking-cessation/living/exercise-can-help-you-quit-smoking.aspx

How to Handle Withdrawal Symptoms & Triggers When You Decide to Quit Smoking
http://www.cancer.gov/about-cancer/causes-prevention/risk/tobacco/withdrawal-fact-sheet

The Dangers of Smoking
http://www.onlinenursingdegrees.org/news/the-dangers-of-smoking/

Smoker? Former smoker? Foods to Clean Up Your Lungs
http://www.charlesglassmanmd.com/smoker-former-smoker-try-these-foods-to-clean-up-your-lungs/blog-53/

15 Mind-Blowing Ways Your Body Heals After You Quit Smoking
http://www.rd.com/health/conditions/quit-smoking-heal/

May you find inspiration!

warmly,
Alexandra
Dr. Alexandra Gayek

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Why It Matters How You See It

If you think of your body as solid, with physical
matter that is aging, degenerating, or diseased or
poisoned, or vulnerable to disease or damage by toxic
substances, for most people the image of protecting,
healing or reversing an established condition is a
strenuous uphill battle. You can’t stop fighting, or
let down your guard for an instant, or that
“relentless” process will win.

Makes me tired just thinking about it!

What happens instead when you think of your body as
composed of swirling, sparkling energy in an ocean of
love?

When you understand that the molecules that make your
cells that make every tissue in your body are indeed
NOT solid, but really are just made of particles of
energy moving in patterns that reflect light so they
can be seen, you can understand how it is that the most
important influence on your health is the energetic
field in which you live–the energetic field created by
what you are doing with your attention.

Early last week I talked to you about presence, and
recommended a video in which Eckhart Tolle taught you
how to be present.

There are so many more videos and audios–from 100
authors–that illustrate, tell stories, explain in scientific
terms–any way you can hear it–why and how you
can be well and happy.

Here’s where you can access them all:

-> http://bit.ly/1T68SCG

These are the ones I would ESPECIALLY, ENTHUSIASTICALLY
recommend from what I’ve watched and listened to so
far:

Series 2, Audio
Anita Moorjani: “Creating Heaven, Reaching for Love”
How a transcendant experience of love completely healed
her of end stage cancer. It’s so beautiful!

Series 1, Video
Eckhart Tolle and Deepak Chopra: “Who is Asking, ‘Who
Am I?'”
How to be present, who you really are. Wonderfully
inspiring and transformative.

Series 3, Video
Robert Holden: “Shift Happens”
Funny, soothing, how to be happy. 🙂

I also found these moving and inspiring:
Series 2, Video
Tales of Everyday Magic: Painting the Future

Seried 1, Video
Louise Hay: You Can Heal Your Life

Any that I haven’t listed just means I probably haven’t
listened to or watched them yet!

If you’ve been watching and listening, which ones have
you found especially relevant, inspiring, moving?

All the audios and videos are available for a few more
days at no charge. If you don’t have time, or want to
own them so you can watch or listen later, that option
is available too.

-> http://bit.ly/1T68SCG

Enjoy! And be sure to comment here and let me know which
ones YOU liked!

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Mind Control?

“Mr. Wattles said–if my memory serves me correctly–that we were not to control a person’s mind to get anything. What are your thoughts on that when it comes to hypnosis?” — Frank Kirk

This question was emailed to me by a new subscriber to the Science of Being Well Network, so we’ll discuss it here–as we will with your questions too! Anyone can chime in with comments. Because of spam, the system is set up for me to approve the first post of each person, which creates a delay. Once you’ve had a post approved, you can comment again without the delay.

Frank, without knowing whether you are referring to self-hypnosis, hypnotherapy, hypnosis of yourself by another to accomplish a specific goal such as quitting smoking, or hypnosis for entertainment purposes, I can’t be specific in my response, so I’ll try to cover all the bases.

Regarding self-hypnosis, in The Science of Getting Rich, Mr. Wattles says it is not necessary to “take exercises in concentration or … do occult stunts of any kind.” But I suppose to keep your focus on gratefully receiving what you desire rather than putting any attention on its absence is a kind of self-hypnosis.

In my experience, most people live 99% of their lives in a virtual reality that is much less pleasant than actual reality, because they spend so much of their attention blaming, regretting, replaying, being angry or upset about events from the past or conditions happening somewhere other than where they are, comparing themselves negatively to images of people who don’t even exist (such as glorified images of movie stars) and worrying and fretting about the future. In that sense, most people have themselves in a sort of nightmarish trance. It would be much better for them if they woke up from that sort of self-hypnosis!

Hypnotherapy, in my experience, can be useful for finding your own answers when you’re stuck. In many cases, the term “hypnotherapy” is used synonymously with hypnosis, when what happens is that the therapist helps you relax, and uses suggestion techniques to help you overcome your resistance to doing what you’ve previously identified as your goal–like floss your teeth every day, or feel satisfied and stop eating after eating a reasonable amount.

Mr. Wattles is in favor of controlling your own mind. The problem is with trying to control other people’s minds to get what you want.

Here’s what he says in The Science of Getting Rich:

To set about getting rich in a scientific way, you do not try
to apply your will power to anything outside of yourself.
You have no right to do so, anyway. It is wrong to apply
your will to other men and women in order to get them to do
what you wish done.

It is as flagrantly wrong to coerce people by mental power as
it is to coerce them by physical power. If compelling people by
physical force to do things for you reduces them to slavery, compelling
them by mental means accomplishes exactly the same
thing; the only difference is in methods. If taking things from
people by physical force is robbery, them taking things by mental
force is robbery also. There is no difference in principle.

You have no right to use your will power upon another person,
even for his own good, for you do not know what is for
his good. The science of getting rich does not require you to apply
power or force to any other person, in any way whatsoever.
There is not the slightest necessity for doing so. Indeed, any attempt
to use your will upon others will only tend to defeat your
purpose.

In The Science of Being Well, Mr. Wattles says:

You direct the will upon the mind, and use it in determining what you shall believe,
what you shall think, and to what you shall give your attention.

The will should never be used upon any person or thing external to you, and
it should never be used upon your own body. The sole legitimate use of the
will is in determining to what you shall give your attention and what you shall
think about the things to which your attention is given.

All belief begins in the will to believe.

You cannot always and instantly believe what you will to believe; but you
can always will to believe what you want to believe.

So, that bring us to the most important point, which is WHY you don’t need to control or manipulate other people in order to get what you want or need. Why this is important to remind ourselves is because trying to control or manipulate others (and our circumstances) so tempting for us, in moments when we believe we are powerless to get what we want or need.

But Mr. Wattles’ point is that everything you want and need is already yours. It’s up to only you to bring it into manifestation. No person has the power to prevent you from having it, and no specific person is required for you to have it. Nothing comes from other people, though many things come through them.

The whole key to the science of getting rich and being well is that you have access to infinite power, and how to access it is by practicing focusing your attention on sensations, images, feelings, and thoughts that feel good to you.

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With appreciation,
Alexandra

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